The following is a list of ideas. Some are so obvious you could have thought of them yourself. Perhaps they will serve as useful reminders to help you find balance in life … on and off the dance floor.
1. Appreciate life’s little treasures. If you’re walking around, breathing & capable of putting two sentences together, you’re ok. Appreciate the small stuff, which is really the big stuff.
2. Purge. De-clutter and simplify everything. Being overwhelmed is debilitating. This applies to your thoughts as well as your physical environment. Clear out what you don’t need so you can make room for what you really want. Eliminate the unnecessary.
3. Take intelligent risks while managing your fears. This is a tough one, I’ll admit. But think about it: what’s ever been achieved by anyone who hasn’t had to take some risks? True self- actualization develops over time. It happens by acting in spite of your fears. My favorite quote from MLK always helps me to take yet another step: “You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”
4. Learn how to live. We all want the same things: to be loved, to live a quality life filled with joy, wealth and abundance. Your dreams don’t just unfold naturally as part of your birthright.
In order to achieve anything meaningful you have to know yourself. To know yourself requires ignoring many societal pressures and listening to your inner voice. To hear that voice, you need stillness and quietness.
To be quiet you have to turn off the TV, give your thumbs a rest, take your fingers off the keyboard, silence your phone and close the magazine.
Being still isn’t easy, but it is necessary.
5. Take care of your body. While growing up, adults around me always said, “If you have your health, you have everything.” I never really considered this until I experienced my own physical challenges.
Your mental, spiritual and emotional well-being emanates from your physical well-being.
6. Bask in optimism. Appreciate what is working. Consider what is good in your life right now and let that be enough.
Some days an optimistic spirit is all you will need.
7. Ignore outside influences that dictate what you should be, do or say. Letting others dictate your actions is the ultimate worst thing you can do. You either feel superior (which is of no value) or you feel defeated – depending on whom you chose to compare yourself to.
If you must compare yourself to anything or anyone, compare yourself to an earlier version of yourself.
8. Consider the collective well-being. – it’s not enough to only create happiness for yourself – it’s also important to help others create and achieve happiness for themselves. Make it a goal to be helpful to those in need.
Then when the time comes, join in and celebrate the success of others.
9. Practice forgiveness. You’ve heard this one before and there’s a reason it continues to show up: it’s that important. We’ve all been hurt.
To move on with your life you must let go of the past.
Forgiveness is something you do for yourself. It has nothing to do with those who have caused you pain.
10. Connect with Nature… Climb a Tree. As humans we have a natural affinity for nature. As a society we are more sedentary than ever. Many of us have alienated ourselves from nature. Studies confirm that depression, anxiety and stress can be relieved by getting outdoors.
Nature relaxes us and helps us to gain clarity about our lives and ourselves. So, go climb a tree.
11. Spend less than you earn. There’s nothing noble about being broke. Don’t buy stuff you don’t need. Before making a purchase ask yourself, “Do I need it or do I want it?” It’s nice to buy what you want, just be clear about your spending. Live within your means.
12. Develop your character, not your personality. “Persona” means “mask.” Many of us put on masks to develop our social roles. We put on airs to impress others and we go along to get along. Sometimes we develop a pleasing personality at the cost of our character.
Personality has to do with how we present ourselves to others. Some of these behaviors are self-defeating.
Character refers to deeper qualities of the mind. Qualities like ethics, courage, and integrity. Behavior is an indication of character.
Character is what you do when no one is watching.
13. Pro-actively manage your social media presence. Someone once told me that happiness is the absence of regret. A few years from now you don’t want to regret having posted a pic that should have never been taken.
Think twice. Just because everything can be broadcast and videoed doesn’t mean it needs to be.
If what you’re posting doesn’t uplift or enhance your life or someone else’s life, press the delete key.
14. Limit your interaction with toxic, negative, battery-draining, bottom-feeders. You know who they are. They are the cynical individuals who don’t have a good thing to say about anyone or anything. It’s tough to be around them. Talk about unhappy!
Nurture healthy relationships.
15. Learn how to develop coping skills. We all experience hurt and pain at some point in our lives. Depression, stress, anxiety, death, loss, broken hearts, divorce, loneliness, anger – Life isn’t perfect.
Having realistic expectations better prepares us to cope with day-to-day life.
16. Say, “Thank You”. Gratitude goes a long way in this life. If you have only one breath left, use it to say, “Thank you.”
Happiness begins with gratitude and gratitude begins within.
It may seem overwhelming to try to master all of these strategies at once. Instead, think of them as a process – each strategy is just one more way of helping you transition to living the rich life.
What do you want people to say about you when you make your transition?
Live with your legacy in mind and let that guide your choices.
Does one of the above ideas work well for you? Share your thoughts in the comments section. Please and thank you.