When the producers from The John Walsh Show called to ask if I would be a featured guest, my initial thought was, “NO WAY!”
My fear was so intense that I ended the call. I told them I needed to check my schedule. What schedule? .
My immediate excuses were:
- I’m not ready.
- My book is not finished.
- I’ve gained weight.
- I’m not good enough.
- I don’t have enough time to prepare.
- Who me? Why me? What have I got to say?
- What if I say something stupid?
- What will people say?
I may occasionally have these thoughts today. However, now I realize how anti-climatic it all is. I understand how we create so much unnecessary drama in our own lives.
A Swedish proverb goes like this:
“Worry gives a small thing a big shadow.”
Most of what I worry about never actually happens.
Here is my three step, fail-safe, go-to process for dealing with fear.
- I ask myself “what’s the worse that can happen?”
- I think about how I’m going to feel if I let the opportunity pass and do nothing.
- I imagine myself at 80 years old having to answer these questions:
- Are you proud of your life?
- What regrets do you have?
- Were you ever disappointed in yourself for something you didn’t do?
- Are there things you wish you had done?
- Are there risks you wish you had taken?
- Do you wish you had accomplished more?
- Did you use all your gifts? Fear
- Did you stand for something?
- Were you courageous?
I don’t want to live as a coward. That’s why I’m usually in action.
If dealing with your 80-year-old self feels awkward, try this:
- Read or listen to motivational material.
- Remind yourself of your successes.
- Network with high vibrational people.
- Take a moment — b r e a t h e.
- Maintain a positive outlook.
- Engage in positive self-talk.
- Connect with people who are doing what you want to do.
- Read books from people you admire.
- Find a coach or mentor.
- Be patient with yourself.
- Celebrate small victories.
- Ask for help.
- Remind yourself that you’re ok.
Setbacks are an inevitable part of your evolution.
Fear may not disappear, but you will get better at dealing with it.
Maintain a healthy state of mind.
“Just because you fear something doesn’t necessarily mean you need to avoid it.” ~ Laurie Johnson