This quote didn’t stop me from worrying, but it certainly slowed me down.
I stopped worrying about stuff I couldn’t control:
- My sister is still using drugs.
- So and so is drinking and it’s 8am.
- A family member stopped talking to me, and I don’t know why.
- My nephew is getting tackled on a football field.
- A good friend is engaged to the biggest loser.
- My brother is riding a motorcycle without a helmet.
- A 17-year-old student quit dance and is making full-on adult choices.
After acknowledging my lack of power, I acknowledged the fact that I had already done all I could do. I:
- provided scientific proof
- sat through 12-step meetings
- organized interventions
- called the authorities
- shared my horror stories
- talked till I was blue in the face
People do what they want to do.
The only thing we can do is be a good example (which never really feels like it’s good enough).
So if you worry, do it about something you can change or over which you have some power.
Otherwise, you’ll drive yourself nuts trying to fix what you didn’t break and, sadly, can’t repair
…..even if you talk till you’re blue in the face.