- You can’t fight city hall.
- If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em.
- One person can’t change the world.
- Crawl before you walk.
- The struggle is real.
- Start from the bottom, and work your way up.
- It’s a dog eat dog world.
- Ain’t no such thing as a free lunch.
- It’s a waste of time to talk to anyone about your problems because when the conversation’s over, you still have the problems.
- Life is hard.
- No one’s gonna help you.
- You have to make it on your own.
- Marry someone who loves you more.
- The only way to make money is to work hard for it.
By the time I was 12, I began to wonder if all this was true. And if it was, did it have to become my reality?
I wondered if it were possible for me to live differently, to have a good life.
On the one hand, these expressions helped me because they gave me a tenacious work ethic.
On the other hand, they made me cynical, doubtful, and pessimistic about everything and everyone.
To unlearn all this stinkin’ thinkin’, I began listening to motivational speakers.
I learned about the power of thought and how powerful our minds are.
I began to believe it was possible to build a positive life, but that it couldn’t be done based on negative thoughts.
The first change I made was to look for the positive in every situation.
I forced myself to believe that no matter how bad something was, there was a glimmer of light somewhere.
Looking for this glimmer of hopeful light became my way of life.
Today, I do it so much that sometimes I keep my positive thoughts to myself.
That’s because when other people are suffering, they may need to go through what they’re going through in their own time and in their own way.
We all get to our peace differently. Just like we all reach bottom differently.
Some of us can endure more pain and drama than others.
And even though a lot of the drama and the painful struggle that goes along with it is unnecessary, some of us still need to go through it to know what we don’t want.
I didn’t know pain was unnecessary or that it could be limited.
I forced myself away from it by not participating in any way.
Sometimes silence is golden.
This strategy worked for me.
The adults who taught me that life was a struggle were struggling.
Their struggle was real.
It is possible to minimize, mitigate, and avoid some of it – by not contributing or participating in it.
If you’re struggling in any way, try letting go of thought patterns that may have become habitual.
Let go of the need to control. Don’t be a busybody and a know-it-all.