Over the past several months I’ve spoken with many young adults (#asklaurie) who express feeling overwhelmed, lost, confused and frustrated.
It seems that the common theme among them is that they are really overwrought with self-doubt.
Most of them are doing well, except for this fact: they are allowing outside forces to control how they live their lives. It’s causing them to doubt who they are and what they stand for.
Consider these examples:
- A 27-year-old woman is concerned because many of her friends are marrying and starting families. She admits she likes her life the way it is. She’s not ready for marriage.
- A 22-year-old male recently moved to Los Angeles to pursue a dance career. He’s book a job and is ecstatic. He’s soon discovers the show’s content is morally inappropriate and contrary to his values. He doesn’t want to use his formal dance training to convey messages he finds offensive and demeaning. He says nothing for fear of what his friends will think of him. Young adults
- An 18-year-old girl doesn’t know if she justified in breaking up with her boyfriend of two years because of his excessive drinking and bouts of violence. She understands intellectually that she can’t help him but is worried that breaking up will “destroy him.” Deep down, she believes she can change him. Young adults
Each of these young adults have made choices that have caused them to question their beliefs. They are frustrated from acting in ways that are contrary to their fundamental nature. Young adults
They were saying one thing, yet doing another; following the crowd when opinions differed; and pretending to be someone else for the sake of gaining acceptance. These choices eventually led to internal conflict and self-doubt.
Acting in accordance with who you are and what you believe is what it means to “be true to yourself.”
My journey to self-discovery was challenging during those times when I forgot how, or wasn’t willing, to be true to myself. Young adults
An honest life is one in which our uniqueness and individuality shine through – it’s when our behaviors match our values.
Respecting yourself inspires others to respect you. It’s easy to respect someone who is strong and capable of standing up for what they believe in.
Take some time to discover your true self. Examine your values and how they match up with your actions. Take inventory of yourself. Young adults
What you’ll discover will be magnificent – what you’ll discover will be the real you.