I had just graduated college and was in a relationship that didn’t make sense.
Of course, it made sense to me at the time.
Today, I realize I was just being a coward.
Mother was visiting and, as usual, stayed with me.
Before she returned home, she asked:
“So, why are you still in this situation?
What are you still doing here?”
Without thinking, I replied with the sad, ugly truth.
I said, “Because it’s easier.”
I don’t have the writing skills nor the time to adequately recount what happened next.
I can only say that mother went off on me for hours.
Her rant included the usual admonishments like:
- Where’s your self-respect?
- What’s wrong with you?
- I didn’t raise you like that.
- How could you?
- What happened to you?
- Have you no pride?
I had experienced this sort of beat down before. I usually hummed a show tune to block her out.
Then I heard her say four words that forever changed my life and my view of myself:
Bam. Just like that: my life was altered and re-defined.
These words struck deeply, because they weren’t the usual blah, blah, blah.
Mother hadn’t called me an idiot nor a coward – both of which I was at the time.
I interpreted these words as a vote of confidence.
Mother was saying that who I was as a person was better than the behavior I was displaying.
And just like that…
I wanted to live up to the better person she knew I could be.
These words helped me evolve into a self-respecting person, one who no longer lives like a lazy coward.
There’s no safe nor easy way to live a lazy, average life.
Lazy is lazy.
You can’t half-step lazy.
No matter where you are or what’s going on in your life, remember that just because you’re halfway down a road doesn’t mean you have to keep going.
You can turn around, right a wrong, and cut your losses.
A dead-end is an obvious place to turn around.
If you’re wasting valuable life energy on anything or anyone, turn yourself around and find that thing called a spine.
Be brave and make choices that demonstrate to yourself and to the world that…
You’re better than that.
What about you? What life events made you the person you are today? Tell me in the comments section below.